Explore The Art Of Bedroom Sex

Sex is an important part of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. It helps couples feel closer to each other, show affection, and share pleasure. Sex also has many physical and mental health benefits, such as lower blood pressure, improved heart health, reduced stress, and better sleep. It can even lead to a lower divorce rate. While sex is not necessary for a relationship to be healthy, it can be an important way for couples to connect and improve their overall well-being.

Try new positions

The Lotus

This position is great for face-to-face contact and full-body embraces. One partner sits cross-legged, while the other sits on their lap, wrapping their legs around them. This position allows for deep kisses, cuddles, and penetration (either with a penis, strap-on, or double-sided dildo).

Spooning+

Spooning doesn't have to be just for post-coital cuddles. Partners can face the same direction, lying on their sides, with the back partner's arms wrapped around the front partner. This position allows for penetration from behind and/or stimulation of genitals with hands. Back-of-neck kisses, full-body contact, and a tight embrace make this position extra intimate.

Mutual Masturbation

This position involves both partners masturbating simultaneously while watching each other. It can be done lying side-by-side or face-to-face, or even via video chat for long-distance couples. It's a vulnerable and trusting act that allows partners to learn more about what the other enjoys.

Legs-Up Missionary

This is a variation of the classic missionary position, with the partner on the bottom lifting their legs up once the penis or strap-on is inserted. This position allows for deep penetration and can be combined with a toy for added stimulation.

Sideways 69

This is another twist on a classic position. Both partners lie on their sides with their faces at each other's genitals, performing oral sex simultaneously. This position allows for lusty glances and prolonged enjoyment, as it doesn't involve the weight of one partner on top of the other.

The Tabletop

One partner lies on their back while the other lies on top of them, also face-up. The bottom partner can explore their partner's genitals and penetrate them, all while maintaining full-body contact. This position also allows for intense clitoral stimulation.

X-Rated

Partners lie facing each other and lift their legs, crossing them to form an "X" or "scissors" shape. They can then grind together or add penetration. Slow, deep thrusts can intensify intimacy and prolong the experience.

The Ballet Dancer

This standing, face-to-face position requires trust and physical and emotional connection. One partner wraps one of their legs around the hips of the other, guiding their partner's penis, strap-on, or dildo inside.

The Butterfly

This position is comfortable and intimate, especially for those with lower back pain as it opens up the hips. One partner lies on their back with their legs and feet in a "butterfly" position, while the other partner penetrates them, lying on top and holding eye contact.

Tantric Massage

Tantric massages involve massaging the yoni (labia and clitoris) and/or lingam (penis). This practice encourages a spiritual and energetic connection and allows for long, lustful touches and an intensified emotional connection.

The Captain

This position involves deep penetration and G-spot or prostate stimulation, with access to the clitoris as well. The receiving partner lies on their back and raises their legs in the air, while the penetrating partner kneels and holds the receiver's ankles, spreading their legs into a "V" shape before entering them.

The Cowgirl

The cowgirl position gives the receiving partner control over the pace and depth of penetration. It allows for G-spot stimulation, clitoral stimulation, and cervical stimulation. Alternate between shallow and deep thrusts to stimulate different areas.

The Hot Seat

This position is similar to doggy style but puts the receiving partner in the driver's seat. The penetrating partner sits on the edge of a bed or chair, while the receiving partner turns away and backs up, sitting on their lap. The receiver can control the angle of entry by arching their back and pressing their buttocks into the giver's groin.

The Flatiron

The receiving partner lies face down on the bed with their knees slightly bent and hips slightly raised. The penetrating partner enters them from behind, keeping their weight off the receiver's body with their arms. This position creates a snug fit, making the giver's penis or strap-on feel larger.

The G-Whiz

The receiving partner lies on their back, and the giving partner kneels between their legs, raising them and resting the receiver's calves over their shoulders. The giver then rocks the receiver in a side-to-side and up-and-down motion, bringing their penis or dildo in direct contact with the front wall of the receiver's vagina or anus.

Doggy Style

This classic position allows the giver to thrust deep, and if entering vaginally, the tip of their penis or dildo might touch the receiver's cervix. However, this should be done slowly and gently, as some people with vulvas find it painful.

The Pretzel

This position is a variation of doggy style that allows the receiver to lounge comfortably while enjoying deep penetration. The giver kneels and straddles the receiver's left leg while they lie on their left side. The receiver then

Play a sex-related game

Playing games in the bedroom is a great way to spice things up and keep the fun and excitement alive in your relationship. Here are some sex-related games you can play with your partner:

The "Mmmms & Ahhhhs" Game

One partner touches the other's body, avoiding the chest, butt, and genitals. The person being touched gives feedback using only the sounds "mmm" and "ahh" to express how they feel.

30-Day Position Challenge

Make an agreement with your partner to have sex every day for 30 days in a row. You can pull a card from a deck each day to suggest a new position and keep things exciting.

Body Decorating

Use Nutella, whipped cream, and sliced strawberries to decorate your partner's body like a cake. Then, take turns eating it off each other.

Oral Dice

Roll a dice to determine how many minutes your partner should give you oral pleasure. You can use multiple dice or take turns to make sure everyone gets a chance.

Sexy Karaoke

Sing your partner's favourite song while holding their breast or penis. Every time you hesitate or forget a lyric, you must stimulate your partner.

Fantasy Drawing

Sketch out a sex fantasy, position, or toy you want to try, and have your partner guess what it is. If they guess correctly, you try it out. If they guess wrong, they have to draw their fantasy, and you get to guess.

Naked Cooking

Get naked and prepare a meal together, like chicken or something in the oven. Set a timer and have sex until the timer goes off. Then, enjoy your meal!

Flavoured Hide and Seek

Use flavoured lubricant in a few spots on your body and have your partner find them. You can control the foreplay and explore different erogenous zones. If you want to make it more playful, tell your partner you put it on more areas than you actually did and let them search for them all.

Strip Twister

Play the classic game of Twister, but with a sexy twist. Every time someone falls or loses, they have to remove an article of clothing. The first person to end up naked gets to pleasure the winner any way they like.

Find the Honey

Get a blindfold and dab some honey on your body in a sexy, unexpected place. Your partner then has to explore your body with their mouth to find the honey. You can set a timer to make it more challenging.

Sexy Storytime

Read erotic stories or novels to each other. You can take turns reading sexy scenes in bed and broaden your horizons when it comes to new acts to try.

Truth or Dare

Ask meaningful questions like, "When did you know I was the one?" or go for something more daring like, "What is one of your deep, dark fantasies?". For dares, try a striptease or something naughty and nasty.

Blind Date

Plan a date and meet up as different characters. Act like strangers, flirt, and engage in dinner conversation. Then, invite your "date" for a nightcap and let that turn into a passionate night of fun.

Fantasy Box

Write down five fantasies each on pieces of paper and put them in a box. Take turns picking one out and then act it out. Fantasies may include trying a new position, experimenting with dominant and submissive roles, or taking sex out of the bedroom.

Body Painting

Use washable organic paints and brushes to paint on each other's bodies. Couples can express their feelings and emotions creatively, and it can even lead to a steamy shower together afterwards.

Romantic Scrabble

Play regular Scrabble, but with a sexy twist. Only make romantic and sensual words. The loser has to do whatever the winner says.

Couples Twister

Play the classic Twister game, but with a sexy spin. Get physically closer, and the loser has to fulfil the winner's wishes.

Re-enact a Movie Sex Scene

Pick a movie sex scene and re-enact it with your partner. Have a laugh, try to deliver the lines, and see where it takes you.

Ticking Bomb

Set a timer for 15-20 minutes and indulge in foreplay without penetration until the time is up. Focus on the build-up and enjoy the anticipation.

Tie and Tease

Tie your partner's wrists and ankles to the bedposts and explore their vulnerable state. Thrill them, kiss them, and pleasure them until they can't take it anymore!

Rough and Wild

Wrestle playfully, tie your partner's hands, and simulate resistance. The male counterpart aims to penetrate, while the female teases and doesn't give in easily.

Close Shave

Shave your partner's pubic hair. First, take a hot bath to soften the skin and hair. Then, use scissors to trim, foam up, and give a close shave. You can even apply whipped cream, chocolate sauce, or strawberry cream afterwards for an extra treat.

Tickle War

Engage in a tickle war using ice or other items. Every time someone surrenders, they have to remove a piece of clothing.

Treasure Map

Draw a treasure map on your body using chocolate sauce or another flavour your partner loves. Let them follow the trail and explore your body.

Sex Toy Surprise

Put all your favourite sex toys in a bag and blindfold your partner. They then reach into the bag and pick out a toy to use for foreplay.

Body Lotto

Assign numbers to different body parts and write them on pieces of paper. Put the papers in a jar and take turns picking one out. Whatever number your partner picks, they get to fondle that body part.

Dress Up the Dessert

Dress yourself up with edible goodies, like strawberries, cherries, and chocolate sauce. Then, let your partner indulge in this sweet treat.

Massage with a Happy Ending

Give your partner a massage with fragrant lotion or oil, and grind on top of them for an extra sexy touch.

Temperature Play

Experiment with hot and cold temperatures. Put an ice cube in your mouth and tease your partner's body, or use a

Try temperature play

Temperature play is about introducing the dynamic of heat and cold into your sex life, creating a rich tapestry of sensory experiences. It can be a great way to strengthen your emotional bond and build trust as you navigate these new experiences together.

Ice Play

Ice is a simple and easy option for temperature play. Try dripping ice-cold water on your partner's body, or placing an ice cube in your mouth before performing oral sex. You can also use ice cubes to massage your partner's body, focusing on their erogenous zones.

Warm Mouth

For a warmer sensation, try drinking a hot beverage like tea or coffee before performing oral sex. The warmth in your mouth will create a new sensation for your partner. Just be sure to avoid adding sugar to your drink, as this can cause yeast infections.

Food Play

Food can be a fun addition to temperature play. Try using cold treats like ice cream or chilled chocolate syrup, or warm treats like honey, and drip or lick them off your partner's body. Just be mindful to keep sugary foods away from the genitals to avoid any irritation.

Wax Play

For a more intense form of temperature play, try using massage candles or hot wax. Soy-based candles are a safer option as they melt at a lower temperature, reducing the risk of burns. Drip the warm wax onto your partner's body, being careful to test the temperature first and avoid sensitive areas.

Sex Toys

Glass, steel, crystal, and silicone sex toys can also be used for temperature play. Simply chill or warm them before use to add a new dimension of sensation to your sexual experience.

Other Tips:

• Always discuss boundaries, consent, and safe words before engaging in temperature play.
• Use safe materials and liquids that are not too hot or cold to avoid causing damage.
• Avoid holding hot or cold objects in one spot for too long, especially on sensitive areas.
• After temperature play, clean up together, use soothing massage oils, and talk about your experience to reinforce trust and emotional connection.
• Get creative and experiment with different temperatures to find what works best for you and your partner.

Temperature play offers a unique way to explore pleasure and deepen your connection, so have fun and enjoy the thrill of discovery!

Have sex in public

Public sex is a common fantasy, and a significant number of couples or individuals have acted on it. However, it's important to note that public sex is illegal in most places and can lead to criminal charges for indecent exposure, public lewdness, or disorderly conduct. The definition of a "public place" can vary, but generally, it includes anywhere that is in public view, observable, or likely to be observed. This includes public restrooms, parks, beaches, streets, and your own home if the curtains are open or the windows are uncovered.

If you're considering acting on this fantasy, it's crucial to research the laws in your specific state or country. In most states in the U.S., public sex is considered a misdemeanour, but the legal ramifications can vary. To avoid legal trouble and ensure the comfort and consent of those around you, here are some tips for simulating public sex or having it discreetly:

• Incorporate fantasy and role-play: Pretend you're outside or in a public place and that people can catch you in the act. Keep your clothes on partially, and choose a different location in your home, such as the kitchen table.
• Sneak away during a party: Having sex in your bedroom while there's a party going on in your home can add excitement, as you'll have to be quiet and quick.
• Find like-minded friends: Invite friends who are also interested in watching and being watched to join you for a sex-filled evening.
• Attend sex parties, clubs, or resorts: These venues provide a space for you to have sex outside your bedroom, and you'll be surrounded by strangers who have consented to being a part of the experience.
• Perform via webcam: Set up a webcam and wear masks to protect your anonymity. You can open your "room" to the public on sites like Stripchat and ImLive.
• Have sex in your car: Choose a secluded location, such as a car garage, to add a voyeurism aspect to your encounter. Keep in mind the legal risks and the challenge of fitting into a small space.
• Choose discreet locations: Opt for hotels, rooftops, or bedrooms with big windows. Ensure that you're not in sight of children or unintentionally flashing someone.
• Use fantasy and role-playing: Describe your ideal public sex scene to your partner via sexting, and create a fantasy about being somewhere public while having sex in a less public place.
• Engage in foreplay outside: Go out without underwear, send sexy messages across the dinner table, or use vibrating underwear on your way home.
• Explore play parties and joint group sex events: Look for local events or special resorts where you and your partner can either watch others or engage in public sex with consenting participants.

Remember, it's essential to get enthusiastic consent from your partner(s) and ensure that you're not infringing on the comfort and consent of unsuspecting bystanders. While public sex can be thrilling, it's illegal in most places, and you should be aware of the potential legal consequences.

Try different penetration techniques

Trying different penetration techniques is a great way to spice up your sex life. Here are some ideas to get you started:

Pegging

Pegging is a safe way to explore the use of different sex toys with your partner. It can also open them up to another aspect of pleasure as the prostate is a very sensitive area.

Anal Play

Anal play doesn't have to be intimidating. There are anal beads, small butt plugs, strap-on dildos, and other ways to explore this with your partner. You can even try oral sex on the anus (rimming), which doesn't involve any kind of penetration.

Oral Sex

Try oral sex in a new position, such as upside down oral. This can be done by lying down horizontally on the bed, facing the ceiling, with your head just barely hanging over the side. Your partner can then meet your face with their genitalia, giving you the freedom to lick, suck, and tease. The angle that their genitalia hits your mouth will provide them with a new sensation.

Sex Toys

Sex toys are not meant to compete with or replace your partner but rather enhance what you're doing. Adding various elements to your sex life is key. Try a couples' vibrator or a remote-controlled vibrator with app functionality.

Positions

Try new sexual positions. The Kama Sutra details 64 sexual positions, but most couples get tired after three or four. Try positions such as rear-entry with the woman bent over the bed and the man standing behind, or reverse cowgirl with the man's shoulders on an ottoman, hips raised in a bridge pose.

Remember to communicate openly with your partner about what you think could improve your sex life and always get enthusiastic consent before trying something new.

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