The Dark Bedroom: Toddler's Crib Bumping Hazard

The transition from a crib to a toddler bed is a major milestone for both toddlers and their parents. While there is no definitive age for when to make the switch, it typically happens between 18 months and 3.5 years, preferably closer to 3 years old. This transition is often prompted by toddlers outgrowing their cribs, regularly climbing out of them, or repeatedly asking for a big-kid bed. However, if a toddler is happy and comfortable in their crib, sleeping well, and not attempting to climb out, it may be best to delay the transition to avoid unnecessary disruptions.

The ideal age range for a toddler to transition from crib to bed

There is no definitive answer to the question of when a child should transition from a crib to a bed, but there are several factors to consider. The average age for this transition varies widely, from 18 months to 3.5 years old, and it is important to ensure that the child is developmentally ready for the move.

One crucial factor is the child's safety in the crib. If the child is able to climb out of the crib, or their chest is higher than the crib railing, then it is time to transition to a bed. This is usually when the child is around 3 feet tall or 35 inches. Additionally, if the child is too big for the crib and is getting uncomfortable or difficult to lift in and out, it may be time for a change.

Another indication that the child is ready for a bed is when they start asking for a "big kid" bed, especially if they have an older sibling. This shows that they are emotionally ready for the transition. It is also important to consider the child's level of self-control. If they are unable to stay in their bed or room at night, they may not be ready for the freedom of a bed.

Some sources suggest that waiting until the child is closer to 3 years old can help make the transition smoother, as impulse control is underdeveloped before this age. However, others suggest that the transition can be made as early as 18 months if the child is ready. Ultimately, the timing of the transition depends on the individual child's development and comfort.

To ease the transition, it is recommended to maintain a consistent bedtime routine, involve the child in the process, and ensure that the room is safe for them to explore.

How to make the transition easier for your toddler

A dark room is ideal for toddlers as it helps their bodies produce melatonin, the hormone for sleep. However, a dark room may not be ideal for toddlers transitioning from a crib to a bed. Here are some tips to make this transition easier:

Prepare the room

Get down to your toddler's level and look around for any potential safety hazards. Anchor tall furniture to the wall, cover all electrical outlets, adjust any decorations within reach, and check for dangling cords on blinds. Consider adding a door alarm so you know if your toddler leaves their room.

Involve your child in the process

Allowing your toddler to be part of the transition will make the process easier. Talk to them about their new "big kid bed" before the switch and read books about this big change. Let them make simple choices, such as the colour of the sheets or the print on the comforter.

Communicate clear expectations

Toddlers thrive when they have clear boundaries. On the day of the transition, talk to your child about how they need to stay in bed until you come to get them in the morning. You may even want to practice during the day, having them show you how they can stay in bed.

Maintain your normal bedtime routine

Keeping your toddler's bedtime routine consistent will provide them with a sense of familiarity and security. The only change should be that at the end of the routine, you're tucking them into a bed instead of a crib. Maintaining a confident attitude will help your toddler mirror your emotions and remain calm about the transition.

Have a plan if they get out of bed

It's not unusual for toddlers to test boundaries, so be prepared for this. If your toddler gets out of bed, calmly walk them back, tuck them in, and leave the room. Keep your interactions brief and boring—they'll get the idea.

Reward good behaviour

If your toddler stays in bed all night, tell them how proud you are and reward them. This will encourage them to do it again.

Tips for reinforcing the stay in your bed rule

While a dark room is ideal for a good night's sleep, it may not be the best idea if your toddler is prone to bumping into their crib. A night light can help them see their surroundings and reduce the risk of injury.

Set Clear Expectations:

Communicate your expectations ahead of time to prevent bedtime battles. On the day of the transition, talk to your toddler about staying in bed until you come to get them in the morning. You can even practice during the day by having them show you how they can stay in bed until you turn on the lights. An OK-to-Wake clock can also help, telling them, "You're going to stay in bed until the light turns green!".

Maintain a Normal Bedtime Routine:

Keep your toddler's bedtime routine consistent, providing a sense of familiarity and security. This could include activities such as bath time, brushing teeth, reading books, or telling stories. Maintaining a confident attitude throughout the routine will help your toddler mirror your emotions and feel more at ease with the transition.

Have a Plan for When They Get Out of Bed:

It's normal for toddlers to test boundaries, so be prepared for when they get out of bed. Calmly and silently walk them back to bed as many times as needed without making it a big deal. If they understand that getting out of bed is boring and uneventful, they'll be less likely to keep doing it.

Reward Good Behaviour:

Encourage your toddler to stay in bed by rewarding good behaviour. You can use a sticker chart, where they get a sticker for each night they stay in bed, and once the chart is full, they earn a special treat like an extra story or a family outing. You can also introduce the concept of the "Sleep Fairy," who brings small rewards for kids who stay in bed.

Check-in with a Second 'Goodnight':

If your toddler is scared of being left alone, promise to stop by their bedroom for a second goodnight soon after tucking them in. Let them know you'll stick your head in a few minutes later, and if they've been lying quietly in bed, you can reward them. Gradually delay these return visits over time, and they'll get more comfortable falling asleep on their own.

Provide 'Big Kid' Reminders:

Remind your toddler that they're a big kid now and big kids sleep in their own beds. You can also keep a picture of the family in their room and suggest that they talk to the picture if they feel alone and then go back to sleep. This can help them feel more secure and proud of acting a little older.

Use a Wake-up Clock:

If your toddler gets up too early or wanders around at night, a wake-up clock or toddler alarm clock can help them understand when it's time to get out of bed. Tell them to wait until the clock turns green before getting up.

Be Consistent:

Consistency is key when teaching your toddler new sleep habits. Communicate your expectations clearly and stick to the plan. Over time, they will learn and adapt to the new routine.

Childproofing and safety measures for the bedroom

As your child grows and transitions from a crib to a toddler bed, it is important to ensure that their bedroom is a safe space for them to explore. Here are some comprehensive childproofing and safety measures for the bedroom:

Furniture and windows:

• Use furniture wall straps to secure heavy furniture such as dressers, TVs, and changing tables to the wall. This prevents them from tipping over if your toddler climbs on them.
• Install window guards or stoppers to prevent your child from opening the window or climbing out, especially if the bedroom is on the second floor or above.
• Remove choking hazards from the room. A good rule of thumb is that if an object can fit into an empty toilet paper roll, it is a choking hazard.

Electricity and wiring:

• Install safe plates for electric outlets instead of using outlet plug covers, as children can learn to remove them by observing you.
• Use wire guards to conceal cords and cables from lamps, CD players, humidifiers, etc.
• Ensure that window blind cords are pinned up out of reach or use a child-proofing product to prevent access.

Stairs and limiting access:

• Install safety gates at the top and bottom of stairs to prevent your toddler from wandering unsupervised.
• Use doorknob covers or tools like The Door Buddy or The Door Monkey to section off certain areas of the house and limit your toddler's access to potentially hazardous rooms.
• Consider investing in a video monitor to keep an eye on your toddler, especially if they have access to multiple levels of the house.

Bed safety:

• If your toddler is still using a crib, ensure that the mattress is in the lowest position to prevent them from climbing out.
• For a toddler bed, install bed rails to prevent your child from falling out of bed during the night.
• Position the bed away from windows and electrical outlets to prevent potential hazards.

General bedroom safety:

• Anchor tall furniture such as bookshelves and dressers to the wall to prevent tipping.
• Cover all electrical outlets and adjust any decorations within your toddler's reach.
• Check blinds for dangling cords and ensure they are out of reach.
• Add a door alarm to alert you if your toddler leaves the room.
• Keep the room well-lit or use a night light to help your child navigate and reduce the risk of bumps or falls.
• Install childproof latches on chests of drawers and cabinets to prevent access to hazardous items.
• Keep hazardous objects, such as cords, lamps, and cleaning supplies, out of reach.

How to help your toddler get back to bed if they wander off

It is normal for toddlers to wander out at bedtime or during the night to see what they may be missing. Here are some tips to help your toddler get back to bed if they wander off:

• Maintain a consistent bedtime routine: The consistency of your routine can help your child wind down and signal to their brain and body that it's time for sleep. A bedtime routine that ends with your child alone in their bed also helps them know that this is where and how sleep is supposed to happen.
• Childproof your home: Take extra steps to ensure that every inch of your home is childproofed if you have a toddler who is prone to getting out of bed in the middle of the night. From installing child locks on exterior doors and windows to ensuring that products like medications and cleaners are locked away, childproofing your home is a big undertaking. Make sure that all items that could be harmful to your toddler are put away and that you check every room in your home for potential dangers.
• Use a baby gate: Many parents find success installing a baby gate at the bedroom doorway. When your toddler calls out from the baby gate, simply put them back in their bed.
• Stay calm and boring: Any extra attention or conversation could reinforce their roaming, causing it to continue. Stay calm and boring when putting your toddler back to bed. Say very little except a rehearsed line like "It's time to go to sleep."
• Delay your response: The first night, wait 1 minute. The next night, wait 3 minutes. Add 1-2 minutes of waiting each night to encourage your child to go back to bed on their own. Give lots of praise in the morning when they do!
• Give lots of hugs and kisses: These are often more cherished than physical treats. Don't dwell on failures. If your toddler had a bad night, say "That's okay, you can try again tonight. I know you can do it!"
• Be consistent: With 2-3 weeks of consistency, your child's nighttime roaming should greatly diminish.

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